“Addiction is always a poor substitute for love.” Gabor Mate In part three of Understanding Religious Trauma, we consider the idea of neuroception, and how the effects of the two very different kinds of “love” – the genuine thing and the “near enemy” of attachment that is its mirrored opposite – can not only wreak havoc on a child’s emotional development, but do so by initiating an addiction to a religious brand of approval and attachment masquerading as divine "love;" an addiction that, because it is seen as the ultimate good and the source of all order and virtue, can lead people to justify any evil needed to maintain it. Recall that in our last article we explained how feelings of guilt and shame effect our sense of safety and self-worth, with the former leading us to feel we are fundamentally good people who may have done something bad, like steal some candy from the local store, and the latter leading us to feel there is something fundamen...