control freaks

Control freaks are people who spend all of their time and energy trying to change everyone else. And they do this, because they never seriously consider that trying to change everyone else is simply the result of their own refusal or inability to ever try and change themselves; let alone admit that they should. 

But the truth is that people can only ever change others, by changing themselves. And all those who refuse or are incapable of doing the latter, which is the only road to heaven, nail themselves to a cross of their own pride and obstinacy, which is the door to hell.  

Such people tend to derive a great deal of their identity and satisfaction from religions, since religions often reinforce the idea that it is other people who, because they are born flawed, must therefore "repent" (i.e., change) in order to please God. 

The "believer," in contrast, is always quite certain that they, by virtue of professing to be a "Christian," have changed (i.e., repented) enough already, and that the rest of their metamorphosis into a true "child of God," can only come through a willingness to pick up the cross as Christ did, and devoting one's life to the painful quest of only ever trying to change everyone else. 

The Christian is condemned to the Sisyphean task of trying to only ever change others, in other words, because they think it is a sin agaisnt God to ever change their understanding of Christianity.