what is love? there are two kinds: conditional and unconditional. in unconditional love, you can share with someone your darkest secrets and doubts, and know they will never use them against you. How do you know they won't? Because those darkest secrets and doubts only make the person love you all the more. By doing so, those secrets and doubts become a playground for reinventing yourself. in conditional love, sharing your darkest fears and doubts means living in fear they may one day use them against you. How do you know? Because those darkest secrets and doubts are what you hide, even from yourself. They are what you are ashamed of, and steer clear of. the former grant you the freedom to be whoever you want to be. the latter forces you to be who and what someone else wants you to be One is the only possible way of exercising free will, and the other is a necessary exercise of faith.
I was raised Catholic. That means I am "unworthy." Or so they tell me. What am I so "unworthy" of? The full forgiveness of God. They tell me God "loves" me. Why else would He do to His own son what He should rightfully do to me? But even the torture and murder of His own son is not enough for God's love to fully forgive and "cure" me. Forgive and cure me for what? For being born with the stain of original sin on my soul. That means I was necessarily born less perfect than Jesus. It also means I was born into a species that so offended God that, rather than choosing to get over it, He decided instead to ensure the stain of that offense attaches to every member of my species He creates, but for Himself, and then requires us to spend our life asking for forgiveness for the unavoidable results of having been born with such a stain. Ironically enough, without such a stain, God could never have depended on our species to murder an innocent m...